It’s been a long time since I have written a personal post. I could easily say that I don’t know why I have allowed that drought to occur. But the truth is that I do know why. So much has happened over the last several months. Things that have left little time for writing, things that have left little emotional capacity for writing.
I started this blog 3 years ago as a way to release emotions that I could not always vocalize. Yet, sometimes it’s just easier to shut down and not even try to put anything into words.
I started back to school in August. Right now I am working on an Associates degree. I am doing well in my classes. I enjoy my classes, even if my writing teacher is a bit odd.
My grandmother passed away in October. It was expected. But what was not expected was the way some of my family members reacted to her passing. Her death got overshadowed for me by the way some of my family members turned into vultures. It made me sick to know that I have to call those people family. But . . . silver lining . . . on the trip home for her funeral I had an opportunity to visit with a family member I hadn’t seen or talked to in almost 4 years. So, out of death came reconciliation.
The last few months have seen me struggling in my walk with Christ. I know he hasn’t left me. It’s me that has put distance in the relationship. I make excuses as to why I haven’t been able to get into my bible. I have too much homework to do. I need some “me” time. I have class or have to work. I’m tired. I’ll do it later.
Aside from Sunday mornings at church, I have not cracked open my bible in months. My pastor always says that you make time for what you truly want. It’s not that I don’t want to grow in my relationship with Christ. I think maybe I am a bit angry at him right now.
That’s the first time I have admitted that to myself.
This has been a crazy year. In January I was feeling good about removing a toxic person from my life. I was seriously considering starting back to school, something that had terrified me for years. Things were going well at work. Friendships were secure and continuing to grow. But then everything that I held as positive in my life started falling apart. My secure foothold turned out to be of nothing but sand.
Building on a Solid Foundation
24 “Anyone who listens to my teaching and follows it is wise, like a person who builds a house on solid rock. 25 Though the rain comes in torrents and the floodwaters rise and the winds beat against that house, it won’t collapse because it is built on bedrock. 26 But anyone who hears my teaching and doesn’t obey it is foolish, like a person who builds a house on sand. 27 When the rains and floods come and the winds beat against that house, it will collapse with a mighty crash.” (Matthew 7:24-27, NLT)
I was a foolish builder. I put my faith my myself. I put my faith in friends. I took control back from God, despite having finally admitted last November that I was incapable of controlling my own life, that I needed God to take control. I can see now though, that little by little I took it back from him. I replaced my firm foundation of stone with my own weak foundation of sand. Little by little that foundation was worn away, and now I feel lost as sea with no land in sight.
Medical problems plagued the station over the summer. Unrest was rampant in two coworkers, which led to the abrupt departure of both of them. The one I expected to not get a goodbye from forewarned me of his exit. The one I put so much faith in, the one I expected a goodbye from . . . nothing.
I’m pretty sure that I am blaming God for taking him away from me. I got to see that friend come to Christ a year ago. I was beautiful to see how he blossomed into a strong man of God. Then just a few months later that man was gone. It hurt. I was angry. I felt abandoned. I felt worthless. I have blamed God for letting me give so much of my heart to this man, and then stomping on my heart like a piece of garbage. But that kind of thinking is not of God, is it? Nope.
Satan is the only one that would want me to think like that. He knew he had lost me to Christ, but still found a way to try to keep me from being an effective tool for Christ. Sadly, it worked. I have not been the disciple that I could be. I have been distracted by my own thoughts and feelings. Heartbreak made me weak. Anger and self-pity distracted me from the only person I should have looked to in that situation. Instead, when I should have been looking to God to heal my heart, I turned away from him. When I should have been searching for healing in God’s word I was not searching for healing at all. I was allowing anger to harden my heart. It happens too easily when the heart is weak. And Satan knew where the weak spot of my heart was.
My heart is still weak. My heart is still hardened. I am still hurt and angry. I still miss my friend. A small part of me wants to reach out to him so badly. But then fear steps in . . . what is he rejects me again. Could I handle it?
I am weak, but my strength lies in Christ. I just need to turn back to him. I need to be ready and willing to lay down the hurt and anger that I am holding like a shield. I need to forgive the man who I always said I could forgive for anything. I need to forgive myself for turning away from Christ when I needed him most. I need to ask for forgiveness for trying to control what was never in my control to begin with.
Until next time . . .